This one is for anyone who has been "almost ready" to commit for longer than they'd like to admit. All ages, all situations.
We need to talk about the great standoff. On one side: the person who has been "almost ready" to get married for four years now. On the other side: literally everyone who has ever met them.
The perfect person does not exist. Neither does the perfect time.
The person you marry will annoy you. They will leave wet towels on the bed. They will have opinions about things that don't require opinions. The question was never "is this person perfect?" The question is "is this person worth it?" And here's the thing — you usually know the answer. You're just scared to act on it.
Arranged marriage is not a compromise. Stop treating it like one.
There is a generation of people who treat arranged marriage like a backup plan. That's nonsense. Some of the most solid, deeply in-love couples you know probably met through family or matchmaking. Both work. Both fail. The variable is not how you met. It's what you do after.
Love marriage is not a guarantee either. Stop treating it like one.
The people who found their person, fell genuinely in love, and are now waiting for the relationship to reach some imaginary level of certainty before committing — newsflash: that certainty doesn't arrive. At some point love is a decision, not just a feeling.
Here is the embarrassingly simple advice.
Find someone decent. Someone kind. Someone who makes you laugh and doesn't make you feel small. Someone your worst day is safe with. Then stop overthinking it and get married. How you found each other — app, family, college, office, random event where you were both bored — does not matter. What you build together does.
You already know who you're thinking about right now. That's information. Use it.